Tips on How to Talk to Your Parents
Although it can be difficult to talk to your parent(s) or guardian(s), they love and care about you and have your best interests in mind… but how exactly do you begin a conversation with them?
Here are a few tips:
- Recognize that your parents are there to help. Although it can be difficult to reason with your parents sometimes, they were teenagers once too, and more than likely they had similar challenges. Discussing important things with your parent/guardian can actually help to strengthen your relationship with them and build mutual trust.
- Try easing into conversations. You can start by talking to your parents about little things every day. Chatting with your parents frequently can help keep the lines of communication open, and can make it more comfortable when you need to talk to them about really important stuff.
- Know how you feel first, and let your parents know too. Don’t let your emotions get in the way of going to your parents; instead of not talking about your problem out of embarrassment or fear of judgment, incorporate those initial feelings into the conversation. Let your parents know how you’re feeling when you’re ready to tell them, and they will likely understand and want to listen to what you have to say. For example, you could start by saying, “I feel embarrassed about what I’m going to tell you, but I need your advice.”
- Be confident, clear, and direct. If you have a pressing problem that needs immediate attention, it’s best not to “beat around the bush.” You don’t want to walk away from the conversation feeling like you missed an important point or concern. Also, when you’re direct and get straight to the point, the person you’re talking to is more likely to listen.
With time and practice you and your parents can work together as a team to address all of your problems and help you figure out different ways to deal with tough situations.